Inner Stability Amid Global Chaos

BK Shivani’s discourse on 21st June in Nairobi addressed the issue of Tolerance and Acceptance in equal measure. Shared here are some take away points from the discourse.

The one who tolerates believes himself to be a victim. This happens very frequently though that’s not how it should be. Tolerance is akin to bending. Bending is a strength – it is bowing down to circumstances or situations. We should not make bending sound like a weakness. To bend is healthy because if one doesn’t bend emotionally it shows rigidity of a person.

When there’s a storm in one’s life and one hasn’t cultivated the habit of adapting to a situation, one tends to break down. There’s a fine yet deep line between ‘having to adapt’ or choosing to adapt’. I should never be ‘having to adapt’ situation if one wants to stay stable. ‘Choosing to adapt’ empowers one in feeling one’s having a choice and standing up to it.

Appreciate yourself when you are able to bend as that makes you powerful. After all the tallest tree may fall off in a storm because it hasn’t learnt to bend yet the humble grass stays firm due to it’s adaptive quality of bending flexibly. It is the powerful that know how to bend and they do not become low in any manner if they adapt or bend their own rules. Bending here doesn’t refer to bending the back over though one who is fit and flexible can bend the back as well but a rigid person might snap a bone trying to bend.

Whatever one may do on a physical level can also be achieved at an emotional/mental level. Tolerance is a situation and not a disease. It is not a painful thing to have to tolerate. What pains is the suppression of emotions. Tolerance can not cause hurt because its intent is power.

Tolerance makes you stand up above the rest in a mightier way. Your being different is your quality hence when you receive rejection and disrespect you must not transmit the same to others. The way forward is to shift from expecting from someone to be your way and that can happen with subtle affirmations in the mind:

1. I understand your way. I understand you. (not expecting you to understand me and my way)
2. I accept you. (no critical judgment)
3. I understand you for what you do. (not taking it as my trauma)
4. I accept you (with acceptance the healing begins)
5. I heal you. ( sending them pure vibes that they need)
6. You are a peaceful soul (we heal ourselves and others)

These blessings of being a peaceful soul become a shift from victim mentality to healing mentality. When my pain is over I cannot be emitting pain on to their pain.

Sikiladi